Alpha - rollercoasting #3

[alpha99]

About a week ago I wrote out some goals. Here they are:

* go on a family activity * be included in a future event. * W show a little interest in me either on phone or face to face.

How have I done?

Well, due to son being ill no family activity planned. After going out with kids for a meal last week, S asked W if she would come next time. We've taken a step back since then due to hospital/my handling of emotions.

No future events planned together at the moment. School knows we are separated now. Parents evening next week. W should be organising time slot to see teacher. I will wait and see if she includes me in that.

W had expressed interest in me during the last week. GOAL MET! unfortunately of course I backslid over son/hospital/emotions etc so this is going to need work on in future.

Overall, I made good progress last week and then spoilt things.

Signs things were getting better:

W being more polite towards me, spending more time in same room as me etc.

This week's goals:

* Get through a week without being emotional with W/be more pleasant with her
* Be included in future event (most likely parent's evening).
* Have her ask how I am doing etc.

I plan to achieve these goals by pulling back, detaching as much as possible, and not pursuing W in any way. Upon interaction with W I will re-adopt last week's attitude that was working so well until I had a meltdown.