Why didn’t anyone tell me the length of time MLC takes??!!
I’m joking, I’m joking. Allow me to vent and journal. First, my back-story – flashback one year ago, St. Patrick’s Day 2014. (Screen is filled with wavy lines, focus is lost…)
Last St. Paddy’s day, W called me at work to invite me to her place for a corned beef and cabbage meal. I said yes. Then she tells me she just broke up with the “special” man in her life. She was crying, I went right over and gave her a back massage. We talked a bit. Our dog was also put to sleep on this day. W called this "the worst day in her life" (I didn’t understand). This is the last time W asked me to ML with her. We did not (another story for another day).
Fade back to last night. I was getting ready for bed, thinking back to last year, perhaps a hope that we might ML. And just like a movie, at that moment my phone went off, W just texted me. She asked if I wanted to take s13 and d17 out for dinner today, on St. Paddy’s day. With a bit of disappointment, I asked her what she was thinking.
W now is watching her father one day a week. And since she would not be around, she thought I might enjoy taking the kids out for dinner. I agreed.
Now I have learned to NEVER get our kids involved in my marriage. I never ask the kids about their mother. It’s nothing I want for them to be involved in.
But d17 was chatty tonight. I mentioned I was glad to make sure that the kids had a good meal to eat tonight (we ate at a mostly fruit and vegetable buffet). D17 decided to share that most nights they make themselves dinner, as “mom is almost never home.”
Now I know that last spring and summer W was out most nights on dating site dates. During this time s13 was failing most of his classes, and I thought the two were connected. Now this year, s13 was doing much better in school, and I assumed it was my W being around, and more involved in his schoolwork. Now I see I was wrong, s13 is doing better all on his own.
D17 also shared that a few nights ago W got her 2000 red Jaguar back from the person repairing it. W was at the home of her close friend (who recently learned she had cancer with a poor prognosis, her husband did the repairs). D17 said that W came home “drunk”.
OK, to make a long story longer, I want to explain why I am disappointed. I thought/hoped W was making some progress away from her previous dating every night lifestyle to something where the kids were more important to her. I saw s13 was doing better in school, and thought W was home more and helping him more. I was wrong on this.
The drinking? This is all new. And we have friends whose mother died at the hands of a drunk driver. I don’t have evidence W drove home drunk, but it raises some questions in my mind. Dang, I wanted this to be getting better, but it seems to be just all staying the same.
