The need for a attorney is that my WAW no longer speak only communicate through spreadsheets and emails and texts. It is sad but that is the reality. Talking only brings us more pain and suffering and I don't want that for either one of us.
As for my using a lawyer, this is a long term approach and I can only pray that this will be successful in the long run. It appears that I fast approaching the big D but have asked my attorey to stall this out as long as possible. He understands my concerns and will work towards that end.
In the meantime, I am protecting my assets and my kids assets as well.
Who knows, maybe my WAW and he AP are in true love and who am I to stand in the way of true love?