Alpha and WAW - part 2

[alpha99]

(Thank you both for your replies... I didn't have chance to reply before W came)

W just been. It went as well as it possibly could. I prepared myself for her likely frosty reception but acted as if she would be pleased to see me. She came with FIL. He is a very, very passive, non confrontational person, so that was no problem.

W stayed about 20 minutes or so, didn't take many possessions really, and only complained over the Wii. Says she will come back another day for another rummage.

I think I handled it really well. I'm quite proud of myself. What a terrible, horrible thing to have to do...and right after S's illness too. But for the first time post split I think I handled a major event very well indeed. This is the blueprint for how to handle future flashpoints. W still very, very angry with me over my behaviour this last few days but I'm sure time on her own in her own place will calm her down.

Reading about detachment definitely helped today, as did discussing things at length properly for the first time with my F. I explained DR principles and his intrusive, must know everything right now attitude hadn't helped. He understands this and it has changed his perspective on things.

I've read alot of success stories today for inspiration. They made me feel good. They made me think that no matter how bleak and miserable things are today, they can always get better tomorrow. That's not to say they will, and if they don't I'm slowly learning how to deal with things.

On the GAL front, I've been to the gym today, set a new PB for my run that I do. Had a family meet up in a cafe this morning. Watched some sport this afternoon. Out for some fresh air after W left as I've stopped to write this.

A few days away from my kids is heartbreaking but they will grow up to know that their dad loves them more than anything in the world. Of course W loves them too. They will see nothing but love from me.

I feel this is a turning point, not in my sitch, but rather in how I am going to be able to cope emotionally going forward. Sure, there may be shocks, there may be setbacks, and I may backslide once or twice, but now I know I an strong enough to go through this. I need to have patience too of course, and that will undoubtedly be tested.