I hid my truth for a lot of years, thinking that was the way to keep peace. But now I have nothing to lose by expressing myself. I'm trying to do so with grace and compassion, let's see how he deals with my honesty.
Originally Posted By: bdub
I must have missed the vacation plans conversation. What happened?
My in-laws grew up spending their summers in a Gulf Coast fishing town. My H and his sisters grew up spending their summers in this town. The houses have been passed down through the generations, the neighbors are dear friends. I've been going to this town with H since 1988, before we were M. The grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, all come in (no one lives in this town full-time), and it's a weeks long family reunion. I love that my kids are getting this opportunity.
We spent last year together there as a family, just like always, even in light of BD. This year, he apparently can't stand the thought of us being there for any length of time together, so I'm banished. I'm welcome to go at a time when he's not there. But that's just not the same. The family isn't going to come in for me, they are going to come in for H, he's their actual relative. I'm the replaceable X. He's taken my M, my family, and now my traditions. I'm heartbroken.
