Yes, I am asking myself WTH is he thinking. The only difference is that H is doing this to my little guy. My little one is turning 15 on 3/30 - he is an excellent kid, very smart and is doing amazing in school, he has a 4.3 GPA an is taking all Honors, next year he will be taking some AP classes on teachers recommendations.
This is the first year that H is missing his birthday and is the first year that he isn't home either. H is not thinking about the impact of what it is for a kid 15 years old.
Instead, his choice is to go in another vacation with OW. So, I can only say do it, and do it well. Because sooner or later you will pay for it.
I went to my L today. Told him I do not want any extension, and that I want him to concentrate to do his best for me and for my kids.
That's why that all the vets here say 'DETACH', indeed it is the best thing you can do for yourself. It took me quite a few months to learn, and after many 2 x 4s on my head, I came to the conclusion that this is my road from now on.
I set up the boundaries I need for myself right now. I am getting my priorities straight with my life and slowly but surely I will be myself again.
It is not easy, but I am a person that moves more when angry, and now I am angry. I will keep my cool, treat the traitor as a neighbor because we have kids, but I want my life in the first place. And, I want even more, that he does not hurt my children.
