I am so sorry that this is all going down right now. First, contact your lawyer and seek spousal support and to try to remain on his insurance because of a pre-existent medical issue. You are in no condition, especially w/chemo, to hold down a job right now. Second, speak to the counselor when you take your children there and see what they suggest, i.e., as to documentation of how the children are handling the situation.
As for being unhappy since year two...then explain a 20 year marriage and 4 beautiful children? That is the mlc script spewing from his lying lips. He is going to do anything and everything to make himself look like a victim. Shame on him for being such an @ss during this time of serious illness. They lack empathy and this is so tragic in so many ways.
But, I want you to know that we are all here for you and will do everything we can to listen, offer advice and support, but vge, you've got to think of you and your children at this time and you've got to ask for what is rightfully yours because you are going to need monetary support in the days and months ahead, not only for yourself, but your children. You've got to put your business hat on and tell your lawyer that you want him to fight for you and that you are unable to work, especially when it comes to doing the chemo. This is not an excuse, but an honest to goodness necessity that you have this time to heal.
God is here to help/guide us, but he also wants us to help ourselves. So, pick up that phone or email your lawyer and advise him it's time to get very serious about this situation and you need all of the legal support he can provide to you.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
