Old dog seeks new trick 10

[Old Dog]

Gg, you are such a star. I love your attitude even if sometime I don't know what the hell you're writing about :-)

OK, now get this. I signed up on The Guardian Newspaper Soulmates dating site!

Hows that for practicing what it looks like to move on? It was the weekend before this last one after I found her explicit cards. I'm not sure why I did it, I just wanted to see if there was anyone out there. But ... you have to create a profile to be able to see ... so I did ... and I've now got 6 likes, one of whom I have swapped to regular email rather than messaging through the site.

Gulp! What have I done? I'm still a little fragile. But I'm saying yes to new opportunities and challenges.

[Vanilla]

Thank you everyone. I'm pleased I took the action and also that the outcome was what I wanted. And also pleased that she was annoyed.

Do you really mean annoyance? Is that the reaction you wanted, hmmmmm.

Why the heck she thinks she can get her way all the time and expect me to roll over and accept everything is beyond me.

Have you considered that you had no boundary on it, for a long time.

I'm going to have to watch out for more spew tomorrow. She said we need to talk. I can imagine it'll be just like the other talks where she is frustrated that I'm not acting like an 'adult' and letting her eat as much cake as she wants and I need to focus on S15, role model blah blah blah

STFU and say, that is my boundary!

Another boundary I can set is:

I will not be lectured by you. I am perfectly aware of my responsibilities as a parent and my position as a role model and I am discharging them to the best of my ability in a very difficult situation. If you are not happy with that, then tough.

OD I am unsure this will have the desired effect! Besides it really is unclear as a boundary. Perhaps " I feel annoyed when I think my parenting skills are being questioned. I am an excellent father and I love my sons very much."

But this is a view not a boundary OD.

I think I better leave out the bit about her being a bad role model with her loose morals.

agreed.


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V, what do you know about Leroc? I understand that Ceroc splintered off into a franchise model from Leroc many years ago and Leroc is more of an 'open source' version. Do they teach similar things still.

Yes, they both do modern jive. They have different basic moves and teach guys to lead. OD after a few weeks, your body will have muscle memory, they say 6 to 10 weeks to lead properly and after that extra moves are bonus. You probably worked out that guys need about 20 moves in total to be a good dancer. I would rather dance with a beginner who does his half dozen moves very well, smiles, actually looks at his partner and enjoys himself dancing. You probably observed dancers who do moves not dancing. No thumbs and remember the lady has joints and it's fine. V always asks the beginners to dance, I was once a beginner myself.

I ask because there is a venue just down the road from me that does Leroc. I go past it every day and never noticed before a couple of days ago.

Good old reticular activating system in place. Go do it, you love music, I would like to bet a good sense of rhythm and when the boys are old enough then they can go too if they want. We have several dancers whose sons and daughters come at my venue. Learning leading is a good metaphor for life!

And why do I keep pressing the Go button instead of the Submit button?

Its there!

Boundaries need consequences OD which can be enforced. So I am unsure your suggestion is a boundary.

OD go GAL, go dancing GAL, get your muscle memory and dance. V would rather see you meet real people, make extra GAL companions including male chums than online dating. I want to see OD happy and real GAL than profile GAL.

I think you will move forward very quickly now OD. I am very happy for you.

V

[Old Dog]

S15 is out of surgery now. They are happy that's gone well. We still have up to 90 mins to wait until we can see him.

It's such a relief that it went well.

[Vanilla]

That is a real positive OD. Thank you, have been waiting to hear.

V

[raliced]

So glad to hear this OD!

[Sotto]

Good news about your S, OD - glad to hear all went well....

I'm with V on the online dating.....maybe best to enjoy some healthy GAL first. OD is lovely anyway and doesn't need approval or affirmation from virtual dates..

Take care ((OD))