Just realised wife of 12 years is having a MLC

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So W just called and wants to meet me to discuss finances this afternoon... I wonder if it's also a test and she will try and be "nice" I have no idea. I will try and remain positive and not buckle, I assume I should be fair but not a complete walkover? What is a fair position?

My W works part time and I earn 5x as much as her... But currently I am sleeping at my mothers or sisters houses and contributing very little. We just moved house, and I don't want to unsettle the kids anymore. But on our current salary's there is no way I can get my own place while they live there. W is meant to be starting increased hours from april and should then bring in additional monies. We also have a lot of debt, in each name created together. Our banking is fully separate.

Obviously I want whats best for the kids and would happily live under a bridge so that they are provided for. However I realise this may make things worse! Particularly after reading Sandy2's guide to WW's!