I don't have a desire to be nasty about it. Not that I won't stand up for myself/the kids, but any financial strain I put on her only hurts my kids in the long run. I still think we could go the dissolution route as opposed to a contested D.
After finding out W was out clothes shopping for the kids again last night, I worry that she's going to spend all this 'extra' money she received from the tax return and be right back to where she was- barely living paycheck to paycheck. I'd prefer she use it to get caught up on bills (including 1 my name is on and can't do anything about- catch 22 if I pay it myself). This would be THE time to go through the D process, financially speaking, so I'm feeling a bit rushed for a decision. Otherwise, I could start putting that money towards house projects.
I find it interesting that I used to have a good understanding and a willingness to go through all the steps needed to work on a M/R with her, but now I'm not so sure. I think it's a sign of my feelings towards her fading. If she 'came back' today, I'm not sure where we'd even start...she still seems so broken, continues to lie to me, I don't care for a lot of her friends anymore...it would be a challenge.
