Well going on my 4th year after BD. Time really does fly. My D turned 18 in December. She dropped out of the 9th grade and is home doing nothing. She said she will attend our community college in September get her high school degree and go to college. I dont question her. Just give her kuddos now and offer support. Hoping she follows through. I havent seen heard from exw since 10/12. My GF told me that 2 weeks ago exw sent her 2 FB friend request. That is all I know.
I feel pretty good. Hard to believe I would make it. I feel for new comers.
I lost my job of 10 years March 2013. It had great perks. My new job is ok. My direct supervisor is a passive/aggresive control freak bully. So 2 months ago I had to confront the bully. I bit of my old self came back. If u dont know me from before I was a cocky go f urself kinda of dude. For the last year and some months she walked all over me. I just took it. The D really messed me up. The fear. ..how I hate fear.
Things at work are not good. But I can deal. The excutive director likes me. That is all that matters.
Financially im paying my bills. Not in debt. But things are tighter.
And we are getting married April 23th. I got cold feet/hands/neck/and u know. We were supposed to get married this Friday.
That is it. Live life, let go and give urself to the universe.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
First off is that I needed to post. It really helps me see things in writting. We are both scared. She had a really bad experience with her ex and shes never been married. I look at the stats and chances for divorce for me again are huge. That is the main fear. But I cant let that stop me cause nothing is for sure. B my daughter said she was happy that I have a gf. She doesnt know about my plans. But I will let her know.
It is a very different R that I have now my GF is very traditional as she wants the male to take over things. Not be controlling but make decisions and take the lead. My ex made all the decisions and later I resented. Im learning.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
We have kat. We have talked many times. And we are ready to get married. I love being a H. My mom doesnt think its a good idea. She thinks i should sleep around when needed. She worries about my properties. Lol not sure what to say to her she turned 85 yesterday.i love her much. The one thing I asked is that if we M it is forever. and if things get rocky we will work it out. Only God knows the ending
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Rick, we all want "for sure" but life don't work that way! I think it's great that you both are able to talk about your fears...that's huge. It's that thing called "communication" and you're both doing it. Good stuff!
Happy Easter everyone. Today I told my D that I was getting married. She asked "in a church"? I said no. Divorced people cant. She said she was happy for me . I asked her if she approved. She said YES. Good day to raise from the ashes..
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
