Dtrmrd:I think the best way to deal with it is to see the opportunities of the situation. Since I am detached it is easier. In one book I have read, "don't attach your decisions to the outcome". That really helps me. If she would ask me to move back, I would not do it at the moment. I can see small changes in my thinking and in my attitude and never again I want to be attached to any person as I was the last years. I regain my boundaries, get a new sense for my needs and responsibilities. And that feels good. A few weeks ago I could not understand what it ment, that my wife is giving me the gift of time. Now I got a first idea that this is no longer only about reconciliation with her but first and foremost about a reconciliation with myself.
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
