For Newcomer LBH with a Wayward Wife

[mahhhty]

I've read this a couple times. As always thank you Sandi. Some of this is hard to read from a place of hope, but it is very important to have some understanding of the WW perspective, and it also forces an appropriate level of expectation (which should be at zero).

The below quote is one of the items I have been thinking about the most. My understanding and actions early on where the exact opposite of what I should have been doing. I catered to her, told her I loved her, tried to own up to my mistakes, and honestly, I would have admitted anything at the moment. My self esteem was at an all-time low. Looking back, I wish I didn't react at all, kept my dignity and just asked a simple question... "What do you believe needs to change for you to stay?" I believe she wouldn't even have an answer to that question. I was so late to the party that she was just trying to figure out how to leave.

Regardless, I am with Bing. I'd definitely buy your book. Thank you for all you do.

I have seen this, where the H goes into some kind of denial and tries to convince himself that his W really is doing nothing wrong. He thinks maybe his imagination and jealousy is in overdrive. I suppose that may be a natural respone, IDK.