When detaching does the WAW sometimes take a step back before taking a step forward. I know I am expecting way quicker results than are realistic, but yesterday she texted me all day and came running out when I dropped D14 off. But then she said to D14 something is strange about the way I am acting and why am I so happy.
This is all very typical behavior for the WAW...this is her on her roller-coaster. If you want to regain your sanity, you have to learn how to get off of that ride.
Originally Posted By: errod
Suspected OM is her 12:30 appointment today. I can find an excuse to go to the office at that time, but I run the risk of her reading between the lines and flipping out at me.
In my heart I want to save my marriage but by fighting her to extend it by not agreeing to the divorce and making them base it off a 1 year separation (which would be next January) do I run the risk of making her mad and closing the door.
Don't go to the office. It will only be seen as more controlling behavior (which means you aren't listening to her and respecting her either), it is not conducive to you moving forward in this process, nor does it help you reach any goal you may have. There is nothing good to come out of it.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
