For Newcomer LBH with a Wayward Wife

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Hi Sandi2, I have just read this start to finish... You have described my wife to perfection.. In fact so much so I'm not sure you're not her!!

Firstly, this should be sticky'd for all newcomers, this would have helped me immeasurably in the first few weeks, I was convinced it was a MLC... but now reading what you wrote in your first post it is clear to me that she is a WW.

I have since then done almost every bad thing you suggest not doing... From being a doormat to trying to be friends and everything in between. Tbh I was just desperate to be in her company and as you said show her I could be the perfect H. The more I did that the worse things have gotten. I won't re-hash what I just posted this morning again here, but please pop over to my thread for todays update.

Reading your posts, just highlighted what I have been thinking the last few days, and I think things are bad enough to actually follow through on this advice. That and I am mentally stronger and able to do so.

Now you say that the H has to move on, so is going on a date or similar effective, too much or just going to look like tit-for-tat and actually make things worse?

Once again thank you for this amazing insight and please mods get this top of the page as a matter of urgency!