Little but FIERCE (Little's Thread #6)

[Barry]

Hi Little, Happy Birthday. Try not to focus on your sitch today...it's YOUR day to shine.

If I could just pick up on the "soulmate" comment.

You will NOT be able to detach properly so long as you think of H in that way. I used to believe my W was my soulmate too, but not any more. That's not me being bitter, it's me trying to tell you that that if your H were truly your soulmate, you wouldn't be here now. Maybe there's no such thing as soulmates at all and we convince ourselves there is to feel closer to our spouses. Or maybe they are real and we just haven't met them yet..IDK.

It takes time (and considerable effort) to really detach... to consciously decide that you can't/won't feel the same amount of pain. It WILL be painful, but try your best to dull it down to a manageable level.

Keep on keeping on and you'll get there ok.

NOW...ENJOY YOUR BIRTHDAY!!

Barry.