More drama. I received an email from my atty tonight that says:
FIL has contacted (by email)his nephew (a prominent atty former judge) to attack my character and speed up this divorce. I'm soo hurt.
This nephew corresponded with my H's atty and had a lengthy phone conversation with my H based on that email. So, FIL says I'm over protective and controlling of my children and that they are brainwashed. FIL even said that he and others are willing to testify and that my H should seek sole custody. He says children are fine and have adjusted well with this situation?!
H told that cousin that our marriage has been bad since yr 2. UMMM - we've been married 20 years and have 4 beautiful children. So it's been bad that whole time.
Our D has been on hold because of the cancer. I don't have a job yet -I'm looking but I don't know what the treatment will do to me. So I am trying to be particular for a career not a just a job cuz I need insurance and a good income to not rely on him.
Anyway, his atty was on board with mine until today. He wants to move forward asap and just put me on COBRA.
I am at a loss for words. My heart keeps breaking. More stress I don't need. His family totally betraying me and my children.
The enemy is trying hard to destroy everything. My marriage, my health and now my family.
All I feel is pain, betrayal, hurt and disappointment. My children seem fine to him and his family because they love them and what would they say anyway. They come home and cry. I see it everyday. I have no words other than I love you and God loves you and it's not your fault.
They are sooooo sad. I'm sooo sad too. Now how do they go over to where there dad is living and their grandparents and not be inundated with questions about their schooling and their well being. They'll try to corner them to interrogate them - that's how they are. Even if you say "fine" they will take it as how they want to see it. It may be "fine" with a tone of sadness but they just hear "fine" as in - oh you are good.
They have always opposed homeschooling and me staying home. They have always told my H that I should work and the children go to public school. My inlaws have even asked my children academic questions (no other relatives children nor their other grandchildren --public school) to see if they're learning anything.
My H portrayed himself as an unhappy person in a bad marriage and that he loves and supports our children. He said they are well adjusted and seem fine. H also said that he's there to help me during this treatment. So the cousin says that H doesn't seem insensitive and that the D shouldn't be on hold.
