Had he already indicated that was the direction he was going? I think I've read most if not all of your threads but don't recall if he ever actually said he was moving towards D.. or if this is the first real indication you got (and therefore why you hate him right now). If so, I'm sorry - that is an awkward and stomach-turning way to get that news on his "decision."

In practical terms - you could ask if he's planning to hire someone to just represent himself, or if this is someone that will mediate/be neutral in helping you come to an agreement. This helps you get the information you need to take appropriate next steps for you, and acknowledges you got the email.


Me:30 H:29, no kids
T:12, M:4 (when D was final)
12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore"
6/14: Separated (I move)
1/15: H filed for D
5/15: D final