Thank you for your kindness on reading my situation and posting. I can't tell you how much it means to me to read actual posts by people going through the same thing either now or recently. That is enormously comforting.
Yes, Mozza, empathy could go a long way on my part. The problem is how do I show that now that things have gotten so far down the path of the big D. We only speak in emails and even then they are curt and short. It makes me feel bad to even see emails from her. Everything I do is viewed with contempt. I was advised to not give back family photos (her family) as that would just been seen in a negative light, whereas I viewed that as a gesture of kindness. Oh boy. I never gave the photos back but I have them in a ziplock baggie for the time being.
Limerace, yes, I have been reading up on it. I remember those days... it seemed like they would last forever. I wish I could have bottled it up for just a drop or two.
Wonka - effective tomorrow, I will instruct my attorney whom I really like and share a bond with to take this case over. You are right, it only makes things worse when we have to interact with each other with this stuff. He has advised me to not respond to my WAW with any mediation stuff.
So now my big question is - once my WAW gets winds that I am now taking this up a notch - lawyer route - she will be even further polarized from me - right? How is that a good thing? Won't that make her "hate" me and everything I represent even more and push her further into the AP arms? What am I missing here?
Again, a lot of this DB stuff is so counter intititve that I scratch my head.
