Well, two weeks ago I told him I hated him and that I hated what he had done to our family, and also that I was disappointed and disgusted that this is the person he chooses to be. Also that I was horrified at having to coparent through D11's really difficult behavior with someone I couldn't trust. So I'm pretty sure he knows I'm angry and also exactly why. (BTW, about the trust he said "You can trust me on this," but I'd had to wait almost an hour for him to show up because he was at a dinner.)
It's official I'm going to have to rent for a year or maybe two, so I'm spreading the word as loud as I can about renting in the hopes that an unlisted option surfaces. D11 is starting to demonstrate some anxiety about the quality of our current options so it would be good if something turns up soon. I'll also be reading up on helping her cope with her anxiety.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
