That is becoming painfully clear... except the OW/OM... they will listen to the OW/OM -- even if OW/OM doesn't have enough life experience to being giving out advice!
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015