Can not lie I thought the same too ... or at least to a point she is just playing along with the fantasy to get her kicks.
Or... maybe not originally a scam, but definitely playing along to take advantage of the sitch in order to get the green card and eventually citizenship. Like -- perhaps that wasn't her intention to begin with, but once the ball started rolling she saw the opportunity and is pursing it since the opportunity is there.
The red flag is that "Saving myself for marriage thing" ... I mean its not the 1800's and in your case its a same sex deal ya know?? .. just struck me as seriously odd. Your W has blinders on and is in full mode fantasy ville. Just things I would watch .. guard you and yours is all you can do ... I laugh at trying to talk to them logically, but the more I learn of the MLC and all that comes with it the more you can see how easily manipulated they can be.
