Starsky, it's all three. It starts out about her depression and hopelessness in general, then it goes into her connection with him and how frustrated she is that she can't find it with me. I tell her she just needs to work through it and it takes time.
She alternates between respectful and spew. I can't keep up.
I think you guys are too far into this (a month, right?) for her to still be doing this. I'm glad you're ending the conversations when she does this.
I'm also not so sure that a trial separation might not work to your ADVANTAGE. I wouldn't agree to it yet, but if she's still this fogged out, say, another month from now, I'd probably advise you to do SOMETHING to upset the equilibrium here. She clearly doesn't credibly fear losing you . . . (and yet she DOES fear being alone! hmmmm . . . .)
