Well, conversation box checked. He opened up ever so slightly, and I do mean ever so slightly, but enough for me to get a sense that he's really happy with the S. He's not the miserable guy I read about in everyone else's threads, he's pretty content. And I've expressed here that I'm pretty content, too, so we agreed to continue things for another six months with some very minor modifications. I did make it clear that I intended to date. Whether I will or not is a different story, but I just wanted to have that out of the way and not feel like I owed H an explanation if I decided to.
Originally Posted By: labug
I think Betsey's suggestion was very good. I know you decided to go a different direction but maybe in the future you'll feel more able to call the shots for your life.
Labug, I don't really feel like I went a different route. Bets said I should express what I want, and I did. I just listened first. And what I heard didn't change what I wanted.
I'm glad we had the conversation, I'm glad it's over, I'm glad we aren't rushing into anything. As time goes on I'm growing more and more distant from him, and I do think there's a point where we will both want to do something different, but for now I'm grateful we are on the same page. Six more months.
Originally Posted By: labug
Have you ever felt safe expressing anger to your H? About anything?
No. H was the one who used anger to control my emotions. RPP expresses herself, H yells, RPP shuts down. Rinse and repeat for weeks, months, years, until RPP explodes. Not a productive expression of anger on my behalf.
