V, if we use this master/slave paradigm, my H is a very passive master. I am a day to day master. We are definitely not friends. Even though I have been trying, the "I don't knows" and 'power in passivity' from him is ridiculous.
I just feel so over it. I don't know how I can expect to build a happy life with someone who is so toxic. None of my other relationships went this way. I remember two very good 'friend-friend' relationships that were long term but didn't progress. It took someone like my H to really get to me (apparently in the bad sense as well as the good.)
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
