Oh, I see you are just a Tarheel fan. Well that's where I live and when lawyers think they are too shady........
That's too bad about the no adultery clause. Definitely do your research though (not just laws, precedent and judges tendencies) because even in no-fault I think you have a good case against spousal (she's been out of the house, voluntarily, for a year).
And a word of advice, dont ask her about saving for lawyers again, makes you look pretty weak. Just plan for the worst and hope for the best. There is a "vs" between your names now so you need to act that way.
I think a good play for you is to try to be as cooperative as possible and avoid lawyers but dont agree to spousal or fork over majority custody. Put her in the position that if she wants to fight for either of these, she has to escalate and get a lawyer and make it contentious, which means paying a retainer and you can argue that you both lose out. Most WS are very short-sighted, and her actions over the past year+ prove that she is too. Play the long game and pave her path to the best settlement for you.
