Hang in there. It's a rough road that both of you are traveling, but the only difference is you are dealing w/the fall out head on and not finding outside sources to make you happy.
Try to remember that there are many times when they are projecting on to you how they feel or what they did or didn't do. When he's spewing, just tell him you are sorry he feels that way and walk away. Do not engage into a heated discussion w/him, which further justifies why he wants to leave or divorce you.
Now is the time or you to take care of yourself and leave your h in God's hands. You can't fix what you didn't break.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
