And again, be a bit kinder and gentler with yourself.
Perfection is an unattainable goal.
There a few single decisions that will actually ruin your life, so relax a bit if you can.
Do you see how things seems to be working our for you as time goes along? Maybe renting a house is a good thing, no maintenance headaches.
Things with D11 seem to be progressing.
MB is finding herself.

Why not let H have the responsibility for selling the house?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss