mlc rut

[pbetra]

Thanks AS ALWAYS Job,
you are always 'spot on' re: me (& so many of your other posts). I

pbetra,
Own only your portion of the demise of your marriage. Do not take on the entire problem. It takes two to make a marriage work and if he's not been there to work on the marriage, then he needs to own his portion. Mlcers always point the finger at others for things that go wrong. They never take responsibility for their portion and even if your marriage was perfect, he would say that you were at fault for it being perfect. Take what he says w/a grain of salt. Work on those areas that you know you may have been "slack" in.

I have to pay attention here for sure. Fear has affected so much as certain issues should have been dealt with earlier. I do take ownership.

I'm sorry that things aren't going well. Please continue to post. It's difficult and painful when you decide that it's time to separate, but maybe it's best since he's still stuck in the blame game and can't see the forest for the trees.

Please take care of yourself. Try to keep the focus on you.

h has come to me several times since R talk this AM. my head is spinning. he 'took back some', said it was "a bit much he knows" I do think on some level he is concerned but he has 2 think of where he can go as well ($$).
I went for a brief walk as parent was napping (!?) & QUIETLY RETURNED. H found me! Again trying to explain - which I acknowledged. Told me I cud relax w/him in his room. Told him I needed to wind down, Im sure u understand" I wasn't angry, & he hasnt been since the R talk - however I just needed a break from the frequent "this is whys, & you dids"... & the intensity of it all.

Thanks again job,p