If we own the story then we can write the ending

[mahhhty]

Unfortunately, it is the nature of the game I think. It got heated with my X as well. I think one of the problems is that everyone feels they are entitled to something. And usually the entitlement is not split even or the idea of the entitlement is not even.

In my situation I realized that I had to figure a way to communicate with her without ever letting it get to that stage of terrible. I read a book that helped because it identified validation statements, which was definitely not my strong suit. The book was talk to me like someone you love. Although it was mostly for people in relationships it definitely was useful for me. There's a fine line between making progress and getting very angry when it comes to child support you will need to learn how to toe that line and work with her to get a result.

They're also different methods, research the method that is right for you and her perhaps it is collaborative law or individual lawyers or mediation. Ultimately what you want is a method that works best for the two of you without creating more conflict. However realize that this is this extremely controversial subject and in its nature purely adversarial.