I know what I will need to do for her proposed camping trip. I'm not particularly happy about it, but then, I wouldn't be.
I will let her know that she can go on that camping trip if she chooses. But if she does, she must recognize that having a weekend getaway with a man who is not your husband is, legally, an adulterous action. And if this is what she wants, and she can't wait, then we can go ahead and file for divorce with grounds of adultery (and get it over with).
I sure as hell don't want to do that, but I am fully prepared to back it up. And I know it's not something she wants because then her affair will be public record, and her employer will find out about it. And I believe with the above framing she will hear that it is her action, and not my "dicking her over", that is the cause-- even though (of course... sigh) she will disclaim and deny it. But I can't help that.
