I'm glad you said about going dark or dim. I too am worried that H is still foggy and will try to come back in a week with a 'yes' or 'no.' And what will we do then? Your advice lifts the pressure somewhat and I realise we are a long way from reconciliation - which strangely helps me. I can let go a bit more and just carry on living my life, which feels safer right now for me.
