I have opportunity to set a boundary today. How does this sound?
I found these (sexually explicit cards) in our bedroom the last time I was home.
They made me feel unable to function effectively as a human being let alone a parent and as I had the children for the weekend it was extraordinarily difficult for me.
I want you to remove them, and any other items relating to your affair, from our home immediately. It is utterly inappropriate for you to bring them into this house and shows a complete lack of respect for me. If I find anything in future, I will destroy it.
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner