Friday was good. I learnt a few dance moves and I can tell you it feels good to hold and dance with a woman again. I can't help thinking though that I would have loved to do this with WW and it makes me sad.
I learnt a few more whizzy moves yesterday, but I also felt rather alone amongst all these people who all seem to have friends here are way more competent than I - apart from other beginners.
Everyone is super friendly, very patient with noobs and says I'm very brave for coming to this weekender alone and without any prior experience. Maybe I am, but you tend not to give yourself credit for things like that.
V, I wish I knew what you looked like. I would like to dance with you too. Maybe we already have. I did a couple of intermediate lessons in the big hall yesterday.
Time to rise and shine. More beginners classes to attend.
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
There are so many people here I am told just over 3,000 dancers, I did a beginners plus class, my gang boss asked me to join in as there weren't enough ladies! In fact he dragged me into the room. It's lovely to think you are here enjoying your new skills and doing dancing GAL.
There were two or three lovely lads in the beginners class of all ages who were on their own, perhaps you could pal up? I took one really sweet young lad under my wing, ulterior motive as I have a single sharer and I introduced them, and they did a fixed couple thing and met for coffee too this morning.
OD I have done lots of master classes (a couple of the guys from my venue whose other halves don't dance) asked me to accompany them, V is safe to dance with and follows well, plus when we go back we can use the moves.
I am glad you are enjoying it though, if you can Ceroc when you leave I am sure that next time there will be a crowd from your own venue which will help, especially if you can find a sharer with a car!
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 03/15/1504:45 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
I was sharing. Nice chap from the Camdridge crowd. We didn't really hang out at the same places at the same time though.
I've just got back home now though - public transport limitations ya know - and I'm dog tired. I took a couple of ours off this afternon to eat something and watch the rugby (terrible gane though, not like yesterday's glorious Welsh victory) and I was nodding off all through the match.
I really enjoyed learning the moves although by tomorrow morning I wonder how many I'll remember.
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
I have opportunity to set a boundary today. How does this sound?
I found these (sexually explicit cards) in our bedroom the last time I was home.
They made me feel unable to function effectively as a human being let alone a parent and as I had the children for the weekend it was extraordinarily difficult for me.
I want you to remove them, and any other items relating to your affair, from our home immediately. It is utterly inappropriate for you to bring them into this house and shows a complete lack of respect for me. If I find anything in future, I will destroy it.
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
Sounds straightforward and dispassionate to me. If she pulls the "relationship is over" card again I would add in the same tone that you are still married and until that changes any romantic/sexual activity outside the marriage is an affair. Then walk away.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
I wonder how folks would feel about the following changes/re-order:
1. Name the problem.
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I found these (sexually explicit cards) in our bedroom the last time I was home.
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They caused me great distress, and as I had the children for the weekend it was extraordinarily difficult for me.
Not sure this part is needed or helpful... still sounds a bit weak...
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It isn't appropriate for you to bring them into our family home, and shows a lack of respect for me.
^^^^I think I'd put this part next.
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I want you to remove them, and any other items relating to your affair, from our home immediately.
(Does thus sound controlling? Boundaries are about what you will do, right? Maybe "I don't want any items relating to your affair in our home".
And then maybe the consequence at the end: " If I find anything in future, I will destroy it."maybe changing "destroy" (which sounds a bit aggressive) to "remove or dispose"?
Sorry if this is impossible to read. Trying to work quickly, on my phone. ..
