TLEE86. Part III

[Mozza]

So W and I had the talk tonight about $. AGAIN. I told her again that I would not give her anymore $ and I will NOT have my $ go to help OM in anyway. Long story short, she agreed.

Well done.

For the record, since theres alot of confusion out there on this $ issue with W and I, I have not given her any $ since January. Last month she asked but I denied it and said I really don't have any, and this month, yesterday, she asked again, and I denied it again. Just this time, she threw a bigger fit (as expected).

Perhaps you should consider changing your reason for not giving her money: it's not that you don't have enough, it's that you don't owe her any. She left you to be on her own, so you don't have any obligation to support her. With regards to her living with OM, I think you're on solid ground.

My question for you all is...if she tells me she's going to start an online school, but she's staying where she is at, do I do anything different? Do I do a full "Mozza" and tell her no more emotional support either? Or do I just continue to deny financials?

Haha. I'm just DB'ing like my life depends on it, I'm really not making up any harsher rules. At least, I hope I don't! I don't really have advice on what you should do, but you know that in my case I don't offer emotional support.

I talk to W, because we don't have kids, because we live in separate states. Because my talking to her, this is the only interaction we have, the only way i can show change. I don't have kids to talk about, to drop off and see her, if i don't talk to her much, i feel she will never know that things are different. And she has already realized that i changed in a good way.Thoughts?

For the record, I think you'd be surprised about how little I exchange with WAW even though we have kids. We go days without a single word exchanged. When we do, it's one-liners about schedule and the likes. There is no personality in my texts. There is no way my WAW can see my changes, unless she counts the fact that we haven't fought or I haven't criticized her once since BD. But I understand that, from your perspective, I at least have the assurance that we'll always have a channel of communication through the kids, should I decide to reverse course (which I won't as long as she's with OM because she's not emotionally available and would respect me less for catering to her while she's with OM).