A coworkers son just got done with Rnaher school in Ft. benning. He was telling me about how people get 'voted' off or something like that. That puts a whole new dynamic on it. You can't just 'grunt' through it. Well, MCS here can barely do more than one pull-up, so my life behind the desk suits me well
As far as support and all, I wish I could offer some advice. In my sitch, we are strictly equals in pay and can support ourselves on a single income, so I can't offer much help.
You're walking that careful line of holding true to your boundaries (no support with OM) but also trying to make sure that you're not controlling her by witholding money. I mean, that's part of separation, not having the financial assistance of the other person.
Also, no need to defend talking to W. Do what works for you. As you know, I would love to have the dialogue you have. There's a difference for you in talking and providing emotional support. That's where I think I've heard folks say treat her like a friendly neighbor.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
