TLEE86. Part III

[TLEE86]

Thanks MC- I actually was jus talking to my chaplain about that, that what I think is unique..is truly....not. So it definitely helps and to be quite honest, he (my chaplain) is having a hard time figuring out why and how I (we- all of us on this board) can do what we are doing. And its very clear how important WAW's are to us to put ourselves through this..I definitely hear you..alot of stuff i never understood about the course, and now it is slowly fitting together. And its making me a better Soldier, a better leader. All in the same way, all this is making us better husbands, hopefully to our current W's, but still, better husbands in general. It doesn't always make sense, but hopefully one day like you said the pieces fit together.

It amazes me how much people put Ranger School on a pedestal, but then again I did too. Like, its like OMG YOUR A RANGER!? And I USED to think that...but having been through it..it just means you can deal with alot of BS. Trust me...its nothing compared to what we are all doing on this board. Everyone on this board will have their Ranger Tab for the amount of [censored] we all put up with here. So...you can be an honorary Ranger. My battle buddy. ha.
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So W and I had the talk tonight about $. AGAIN. I told her again that I would not give her anymore $ and I will NOT have my $ go to help OM in anyway. Long story short, she agreed.

For the record, since theres alot of confusion out there on this $ issue with W and I, I have not given her any $ since January. Last month she asked but I denied it and said I really don't have any, and this month, yesterday, she asked again, and I denied it again. Just this time, she threw a bigger fit (as expected).

We ended the convo with her (i think) understanding that she will not get any $ from me, and that I don't understand why she is living there with OM when she denies anything is going on. I blatantly said to her, if you are choosing to make a life there and stay there, then just tell me and I will be done and wont stand in the way. And she said, idk what I'm doing.

I think next month she will ask for $ again, because she is running low. I will just have to again deny it and politely tell her I wont give her anymore. She said she is going to "process everything" and figure out where she is going to stay.

My gut tells me she is going to try and appease me and hope I sweep this under the rug but I am strong enough to say no a third time. My question for you all is...if she tells me she's going to start an online school, but she's staying where she is at, do I do anything different? Do I do a full "Mozza" and tell her no more emotional support either? Or do I just continue to deny financials? I feel i already know the answer since most of you disagree with how much and how frequently I talk to W.

I talk to W, because we don't have kids, because we live in separate states. Because my talking to her, this is the only interaction we have, the only way i can show change. I don't have kids to talk about, to drop off and see her, if i don't talk to her much, i feel she will never know that things are different. And she has already realized that i changed in a good way.Thoughts?