Its hard to do but you just have to let her follow her own path and you follow yours. Those paths may come back together, or they may separate forever. You can only control your path so that's what you should be focusing on.

I hate seeing my W do the things shes doing now because I can see how its only going to hurt her in the future, and she cant see it yet. But that's not my concern anymore, its something she has to figure out on her own. All I can do is work on my myself and let her do whats shes going to do, just as you have to.

For me this has been a blessing and a curse at the same time. Its the worst and one of the best things that has ever happened to me as hard as that is to say. I may lose my wife, I may not, only time will tell. The more important part is that I'm finding myself.

As for thinking you need to show her how her actions are affecting D14, Sandi is right. She wouldn't accept anything you have to tell her even if you had a valid point on something and doing it in some covert way will likely only come back to bite you. You don't need to show her anything, you just need to protect D14 as best you can. This is something your W will have to figure out herself or live with the consequences of.

Last edited by Fogg; 03/16/15 02:50 AM.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be