Zew, thank you for the insightful reply. Your words truly spoke to the uncertainty I have in my head and heart about dealing with divorce. Thank you
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How about you change your approach? In several statements you are determining your current GPS position, assessing the various roads ahead, and providing a probability analysis of success for each route.
STOP!
Assess your situation:
Who you are
Who you want to be
What you want
At what cost you are willing to get what you want
What your boundaries are
Get a tangible list in your hand (keep it in your wallet) and use it as a roadmap to remind you of the truth so that you don't fall into the trap of letting your emotions run the show.
Figure out what the RIGHT things to do are, and focus on doing them nomatterwhat. Where you are, the road ahead, and probabilities based on emotional swings are not relevant or helpful in any fashion.
-PM
PM, thank you so much for the reply. Please help me understand more clearly. I am lost and I need to change my approach. I want to live honestly and do the right thing. Those words sound so refreshing in the midst of all I am going through if that makes sense.
When I create my list, is this in the context of my marriage, my career, my kids, spirituality, morals, or all of the above? What is the scope of this introspection? I want to do it, I really do. My actions have followed my emotions up and down for the past 6 weeks. I don't want to do that anymore.
So say in practical terms, if one of my boundaries is that I cannot participate in an open marriage, how would I do the right thing with respect to that boundary being steamrolled everyday?
Me: 30 W: 25 D4, D1 Undiscovered EA/PA since 6/2014 BD: 2/6/15 Living together - in limbo
