Confused 3

[Joe46]

Thanks sawbby, that is exactly what I am doing. It is not hard to take things slow because to be honest, I have been thinking all day how I would handle things if she started trying again. It will take me a LONG time to trust her again, if I can. I am also deciding on if I can deal with the work issue. If things get better and somewhere down the road the intimacy comes back, can I deal with that after knowing what she was doing on the phone all night. I think in the back of my head, I could be wondering if she is really into me or thinking of one of her calls. If she quits the job, and over time we can work on the marriage, it will still take a long time before I think I would be comfortable. I feel betrayed and cheated on now even though it is just a phone thing. Hope that does not sound silly, but that is how I feel.