Trying to Follow DB & DR

[Miman2]

So the question I guess I had was does LRT generally just lead straight into reconciliation when the spouse is really ready to make a commitment to the M?

It's not that simple, or quick. I don't think you are getting it.

I realize that it's not that simple or quick... But the books mention nothing about making that transition in going from:

Step 1) LRT
Step 2-???) ????
Final Step) Working on the M & R to work towards reconciliation.

Like I mentioned, there seems to be two separate ideas to the books.

1) You're together and everything in the book applies.
2) You're separated and you LRT the hell outta them until they're willing to work on the relationship.

I guess maybe that's just it... When you're separated the LBS has to try to do the best they can to change themselves through the DR methods while LRTing the hell out of the WW and hope/pray that they eventually want to work on the R, however long that may take.