hold on! - 8

[u-turn]

Thanks Vapo,
She has been given my boundaries, seemed to have agreed with them, but will not provide the proof.

I agree that OM has to be gone now and forever. It has to be. I cannot live waiting for this to happen again, or look for signs that it hasn't stopped.

She will work with him for two more months - that's a painfully long time (for me) knowing how they were able interact at work before. This is a sore spot for me, but there is nothing I can do about it.

I think that if she will not write the letter, we need to have a discussion of the message, which goes back to my boundaries and things that I need.

I don't know if the sent letter is a deal breaker for me. but the content of it is. and her trustworthiness is. I just don't know how the regain trust without real action.

Sorry for this rant - She loves to brush off her responsibilities and make herself look like she is perfect to everyone. She also likes to find people that will listen to her without telling her she's wrong.
-affair - no big deal, move on. (I think she still thinks it is/was justified) (she actually threw me a little when she unearthed past issues from 15 years ago when I told her that I wanted the letter - she keeps trying to make me feel responsible for her A).
-DUI - meh, first time, no big deal.
-nearly totaled car, meh no big deal - insurance will cover it.
-Telling the kids nothing of what's going on (car's in the shop, she keeps the kids in complete darkness so she doesn't look bad. S17 is definitely catching on to that.

Mistakes happen, accidents happen, bad decisions happen. But at some point you have to face the music. This all has to catch up with her sometime.