She was getting so angry last night that she was promising to do something big and I didn't feel safe leaving my son in the house. That's why I turned around. She didn't have me to attack, so she was using him as a proxy.
Quote:
Having some separation from her has been SO beneficial for both my S7 and I. The first night we were at the BIL house, my son woke up a lot. Last night he slept the whole night. He even remarked about how well he slept.
I asked him if he hadn't been sleeping at our house and he said yes. That he has bad dreams about mom. That she's in his nightmares lately.
Given your strong concerns about the safety of the boys, combined with her temper and resentment of kids, I say take the boys and get the heck out of Dodge. This is plain scary! Your first priority is S7 and it is heartbreaking what he has already experienced.
It doesn't sound as if you did the baby any favors by marrying his mother. You weren't in love with her, and she obviously didn't want children. Some women are not natural-born little mothers nor make a good parent. The way you talk about your feelings toward her now........frankly, just doesn't sound like a hopeful situation.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
