Trying to Follow DB & DR

[Miman2]

It's an apartment that we're both on the lease. She as since left and got her own apartment, somewhere I don't know where it is. She basically has free access to the place she's staying and the place I'm staying now. We had talked last week about her coming over and she said she would call before she did but I guess she can do what ever she wants whenever she wants. I'm just trying to protect my stuff.

That being said she hasn't done anything vindictive yet, and I do want her to be able to come home and I feel changing the locks prevents her from doing so...

I'm SO conflicted right now. She has her cake and gets to eat it too, she gets all the time/space/privacy she wants while I get to sit back, GAL, and she can walk all over me because if I try to set boundaries or anything all of a sudden I'm not giving her space, or I'm being controlling.
:-/