If you mean, does what I did(boundary) change anything my wife is doing, no. She is still in her office last night and will be tonight. The blankets are still covering the cracks. I did not expect her to drop it and say " oh honey, I am so sorry. I am done with this job". I did what I did 100% for myself and I felt so good about it that I was not freaking out everytime my wife freaked out the past 2 days.
No, I was not talking about your boundary. Gee, do I communicate that poorly? My entire post was centered around the idea of a bad M with any type of abuse does not give the W a right to be wayward!
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I have not denied I have things to work on. But just because I am not happy with my wife right now, doesn't give me the right to seek love elsewhere. My wife has done alot of damage to us financially because of her lies and lack of communication. I have stuck it out even though I have been extremely stressed over it. If I felt our marriage was so terrible, I would file for divorce before finding someone new. It is something I believe in. Two wrongs don't make a right.
I had to read this a couple of times to decide if you had taken what I said the wrong way. Your quote above is true, and aligns with my last post. I just wanted you to understand that being less than a perfect H, or a terrible H, does not excuse what your W is doing now.
If you understand, then let's change the subject.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
No, I was not talking about your boundary. Gee, do I communicate that poorly? My entire post was centered around the idea of a bad M with any type of abuse does not give the W a right to be wayward!
