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Thanks Starsky for expressiv well what i just thought.
This is about us Susanas. You also need to figure out in your live where you want to be, what kind of a R you want to have. As married people, of course we have to make sacrifices, we can't have it all, or we will stay alone forever. But set your bar and let a certain standard be fulfilled. Or at least try to think about if H is capable of learning too. You cannot be the only workhorse in your R. He needs to want to work on himself and the R too, with open heart.
Of course it's not black and white but important for your personal happiness.