Would it be appropriate to send her a link to the books? Let her know that these might help? Or should I continue to leave her alone to figure things out.
I can only imagine how badly you want to see her turn around. If you are the one trying to give her information it won't be received or have the effect it would if she found the information herself. Yes, that book was very effective in my case, but it might not be the same with her. I was at that point in my journey where the timing of everything fell just right for me to be receptive to that information. If my H had given it to me, however, I probably would not have bothered to look at it. B/c he still had to be careful not to show any pursuit.
I cannot stress enough how important "timing" plays a part in the WW finding her way back. If she has expressed some remorse, that is good. If you didn't show too much excitement about it, that is even better. LBH's get too eager at the first positive sign, and that scares her away. She still needs time. I have doubts about these WW's that claim everything is back to normal too quickly, and just wants to put it behind her and move on. It is a slow process she has to work through.
Wait for her to come to you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
