Hi Vge1. I just got caught up on your story. I am so sorry to hear the battle you are fighting and my prayers are with you. From what I read, you are a strong woman and have the right mindset. You know what you need to do, for your own survival, but it's not easy. Especially when our kids are involved.
It amazes me over and over how selfish MLCr's can be, and your H is up their high on my list. Unfortunately, it sounds like your wishes are falling on deaf ears. It doesn't sound like he is going to have much compassion in regards to the children being around OW, so I figure it's time to take some control of the situation, at least what you can control. I also can't believe the way this woman is behaving being aware of the situation, seems to me to be a very low class twit of a person.
So is there anything legally you can do? Or, I hate to say it, but maybe limit the time the kids are with him? If he can't honor this simple request, then they shouldn't be around him. I hate to see what our kids have to deal with, it always breaks my heart.
Please take care of yourself and do whatever it takes to bring you to a happy place.
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-