First off I want to thank everyone who has been helping through my journey. This message board is my lifeline right now.

1. Tell Her I can't think of any pro or con other then the fact I am still protecting her.

2. Not telling her She will never know until her HVAC unit stops working correctly and she pays someone to come out.

3. Change filters without saying anything. That is what I have been doing but I know longer have my key to the house. When I threw that tantrum last week I left it on the counter with my wedding ring. The only thing she brought me was my wedding ring saying I don't need a key. I do have another set but she does not know that, but I don't want to get caught either so I will not use it.

Me: 36
W: 36
D: 14
T: 18 (05/1997)
M: 16 (05/1999)
BD: 7/23/15
Separation 01/2015
D mentioned and started 02/2015
D filed 3/2015
OM confirmed 3/30/15