If the kids are not properly being taken care of then take legal steps to have them in your care.
DON'T turn this into a blame game.

And fyi thinking that your kids are being brainwashed shows you have a very negative image of your wife and that most likely seeps through during your interactions. That's not good for any relationship.

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction